Then Jesus asked, “Which one of these three people was a real neighbor to the man who was beaten up by robbers?” The expert in the Law of Moses answered, “The one who showed mercy on him.” Jesus said, “Go and do the same!” Luke 10:36-37
Jack was probably one of the most honest church members I ever knew. As far as reaching out to new people was concerned, he was clear on where he stood. I was visiting Jack and his wife, when he asked, “Are you the one that wants to get more people in our church?” Feeling rather proud of our efforts, I acknowledged that we were trying to do that. Jack’s response caught me completely by surprise. “Well, I don’t like it!” he said, “I like our church just the way it is!”
Having a mind set of rejecting people who are not quite like us can be hard to overcome. In that small rural community there were the insiders and the outsiders. Outsiders included most anyone that was not born and raised in the community, for at least two generations back. People who lived further from the town, pointed out that it had been a railroad town. There was a period in its history when visitors were not always concerned about the well being of the town’s residents. The town was a hub of sorts which kept the merchants happy, but residents were wary of these outsiders. Sometimes they had a right to be.
That fear of outsiders followed through the generations. Edwin H. Friedman’s book, “Generation to Generation” has been an invaluable help to me in ministry. Systems most often are created because of a personal experience. Systems in churches also grow out of experiences as a collective group of people. Unhealthy systems can point to caustic leadership in a previous period of time.
I’m not sure what really happened in that little church to cause so much fear of the other. I do know that our fear today is creating divisions and cracking our society as a whole. When fear of the other drives our politics, we are suspicious of people who don’t look like us, talk like us or share our cultural background. We find it difficult to welcome “the other” into our homes, schools, churches and communities.
I think that Jesus was intentional in choosing a *Samaritan as the hero and person to emulate in his story about a true neighbor. He was asking us to look beyond our differences. To see our common humanity and remember that all of our blood runs red.
*The story of the Good Samaritan is found in the Biblical book of Luke chapter 10, verses 25-37.
Previously published on August 16, 2019 as Moving Beyond our Fear to Care
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You described my first call after I retired from the Air Force… unless you had six generations (a slight exaggeration… more like three) buried in the cemetery you weren’t “one of us.” The town motto for many years including while I was there? “Experience Yesterday Today”
So many stories from that dysfunctional place.
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I had many stories too, but then there were the faithful people, who showed grace and compassion, in the midst of those stories.
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Sadly those were in a distinct minority… but I was closer to Mobile for the three years that Denise and I were engaged.
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Sorry, that must have been Hard. I was serving two churches, which allowed me to have a vastly different experience in the other one.
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Went from there to Estes Park and the Rockies… an incredible contrast. Bummer that my breathing issues (Central Sleep Apnea) couldn’t be controlled. Despite that, it was an incredible five years of ministry… despite COVID
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It is good to have memories of places that were a gift to us. I’m glad you had a good ministry there.
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I have heard those very words from a parishioner! And was chilled to the bone, but had to recognize that she was honest and many others felt the same way but would not say it.
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You were chilled and I was shocked. I wasn’t wise enough at the time, to realize there was experience behind his fear. This was the community that in the early 1900’s, was said to have tarred and feathered a disliked pastor of another church in town.
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That’s horrible!
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I wondered if it was actually true, but found an archive that indicated it was.
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